Here’s a scenario that happens in our house on almost a daily basis. Usually more than once a day.
V is watching television, but it’s time for his bath. I’m not so mean as to switch everything off in the middle of a DVD (even if he’s seen it five million times).
So I tell him, ‘Vinay, it’s time for your bath.’
He immediately starts making a fuss.
‘Vinay, you can watch one more song and then it’s time for a bath.’
I make sure he has understood what I’ve said.
‘Vinay, how many songs can you watch?’ He tells me, ‘One’ and holds up one finger.
‘What will you do after that?’ He replies, ‘Go for bath.’
So he understands.
After his chosen song is over, I remind him it’s time for his bath and that he AGREED that he will come without a fuss.
Cue tantrum and a whole lot of ‘No, no no!’
I don’t let him watch any more, but he can spend anywhere between ten and thirty minutes stamping his feet and throwing himself around the room.
This SAME scenario happens throughout the day.
When it’s time to eat, time to sleep, time to get dressed, whatever it is. We agree on something. I check he understands, but then he has an absolute shit fit.
I’ve tried it the other way round as well. E.g. ‘Yes, you can watch Wheels on the Bus, but you have to have dinner first.’
Doesn’t happen. He screams and cries and then nothing happens for the next hour.
I find myself losing my patience more regularly and really need to come up with some strategies to deal with this nonsense.
Am I being too soft?