A Toddler’s Rules of Possession

I saw this on Facebook a few months ago and saved it because everything rang true! ¬†Sorry I can’t give credit where it’s due – I just can’t remember who I stole it from!

I don’t know what your toddler is like, or what the ‘situation’ in your home is like… ¬†But if yours is anything like mine, the following rules probably apply in your home as well!

A Toddler's Rules of Possession

Jealous Toddler

I have a jealous toddler.

At first I thought it was quite cute.  If the dog is sitting in my lap and having a cuddle, Vinay usually comes running over, pushes him off and takes his place.  So cute, right?

A couple of months ago, I was helping a friend’s daughter up a step.  Vinay was holding one hand and the little girl my other hand.  Vinay pushed her.  I was quite mortified, but, I have to admit, secretly pleased.  

This morning, at playgroup, a little girl threw something which just missed my head.  Her mum immediately reprimanded her and made her apologise to me.  The girl apologised by rubbing her forehead against mine.  Awww!  Vinay was sitting in my lap at the time and got annoyed with her.

I think being jealous of other children is quite normal.  

What worries me is that he’s jealous of LagosDad as well!

Let me give you a couple of examples.

When V watches a DVD in our room, he pushes us both back so we’re lying down on our own sides of the bed and then sits between us or cuddles with me.  BUT, he will not allow LagosDad and I to touch each other.  We cannot hold hands, my elbow cannot be touching his elbow and we cannot kiss.  Not even a peck.

Last night we were sitting next to each other on the bed and I had one arm around LagosDad.  Vinay came along and moved my arm.  Then he saw that our legs were touching and he moved my leg.  And all the while he was shouting!

When we first realised that he got annoyed, we’d have a cuddle on purpose, just to see his reaction (is that mean?).

But now it’s getting to be a bit much!

Has anyone else experienced this?  Is it normal?  What should we do?