What Happened to the Advent Calendar?

So I’ve been very lazy about updating my blog. To be honest, lazy isn’t the word. It’s busy. I’ve been too busy to update! Oh – and tired. So all my posts about Christmas and stuff are a bit late – but whatever!

So remember about the Advent Calendar? I had the brilliant idea of using the chocolate as a bribery for Vinay to do his Kumon each day.

He was actually very excited about it – and we started off really well. It worked! But only for two days.

By the third day he said, ‘You eat the chocolate Mama. I don’t want it.’

WTF? Where was my son, the chocoholic?

Anyway, so LagosDad and I ate all the chocolates (from two calendars). We just stuffed our faces whenever we wanted *ashamed face*.

It turns out that V didn’t mind not having any chocolate because his Dadi (paternal grandmother) had been giving him chocolate every day on the sly (I’m not willing to discuss this right now. All I will say is, ‘GRRRRR’).

So we’ve abandoned the Kumon for now. I’ve tried to reintroduce it from time to time – but my son knows his mind and when it’s made up, it’s made up.

The Advent Calendar

So here a couple of things I didn’t think about before buying V1 his first chocolate Advent calendar…
1. Ants
2. Melted chocolates
3. Can be used to bribe V1 top do his Kumon
4. Dog might get to chocolate before any of us

So the calendar will be kept in the fridge and only taken out to open the door, discuss the numbers and look at the pictures. This WILL only happen after the Kumon is done. And we’ll have to be careful not to drop any more of the chocolates!

Bribery

I’ve been rather anxious, as you know, about V settling into nursery.  It’s only his second week – and I *do* know that some kids take longer than others to adjust to such a huge change.  I thought I’d help him along…

On Monday morning he was a bit teary and clingy in the car.  We were five minutes late, so all the other children were already inside.  The nursery helper came and took him, and he went without any fuss.  When I picked him up, I had a packet of Buttons.  He’s never tried them before.  He’s never had chocolate before (chocolate cake doesn’t count!).  I tried to give him one on the way home.  He resisted at first, but then decided he wanted to try it.  

His face was priceless.  He immediately said, ‘More!’  Dammit.  I should have known better.  

I told him I’d give him another one after he had his lunch (we were back home by now).  He started throwing himself around the room until he got another one (yes, I gave in).

On Tuesday morning, he was a bit fussy again.  I told him I was going to drop him off and go and buy dudu (milk) and yogurt (which is what I tell him everyday).  Then I told him, ‘And I’ll bring you a chocolate when I pick you up!’  No jokes, he was ready to leave in five minutes!

I took the packet with me, as I promised and gave him a Button in the car.  And the ‘More!’ started.  We’d already agreed I was only going to give him one, so what was this nonsense all about?  Repeat tantrum like the previous day.

Clearly the boy didn’t understand bribery.  Clearly I was dumb enough to think he did.

Yesterday I had a brainwave (maybe common sense to others?).  I put three Buttons in a clear sandwich bag and handed the bag over to him on our way home.  He ate them all.  And said, ‘More!’  I made him look at the bag and see they were all gone.  ‘Mama buy more!’ was the response.  I told him I would buy more tomorrow after I dropped him off.

And that was it.  Problem solved.  No more crying or screaming for more!

If only I’d thought about this on Monday.

Now I have to figure out how to stop the Button thing!