My tutoring session last Wednesday was cancelled and V has no more cooking classes until January, so I decided to take him to buy a new water bottle and his special cup for when he “gives up the bottle”.
The first store we went to was the place to get his new water bottle. On the same display as the water bottles, were the pacifiers. This was a problem. He spent ten minutes choosing his new bottle and then a further five minutes trying to persuade me to buy him a pacifier.
When he realised his tactics weren’t working, he started crying. He cried and cried. All the way to the second place we were going to.
When we reached the second shop and he realised a) I wasn’t going to give in and b) He was going to have to wait in the car if he kept crying, he stopped. He stopped his tantrum so suddenly, I wondered if the whole episode had actually happened! All he said was, ‘When I become a baby you buy me a chupa, ok?’ I agreed.
He chose his cup. A very boring green cup. I’m still trying to work out why he didn’t want the teddy bear or cow shaped mugs. Oh well, at least he saved me some money!
We got home and I asked him when he was going to throw his bottles away. He stopped for a minute and said, ‘On Monday.’ I asked him why on Monday? Why not right away? He responded, ‘Mama, see. Today is Wednesday. I can only throw bottles on Mondays.’
Hmmm… Delaying tactics me thinks.
I brought it up a couple more times during the next few days – but never got a response or a reaction until…
On Saturday morning, V came into our room and said: Mama, Santa is coming today.
Me (confused): Oh? Is he? But it’s not Christmas Day today.
V: Mama, Santa is coming today and he’s going to take aaaall my bottles away. And he’s going to leave me a present. But he will only leave me one present because it’s not Christmas Day yet.
Me: Oh! Ok! Lucky you! Santa’s coming!
And he turned and left. Where did all this come from?
He was at his grandmother’s that whole afternoon, so I was able to gather all his bottles. I found a whole lot of new ones still in boxes (don’t ask) and I shoved everything in a cupboard. I wrapped a gift from the toy cupboard (in Christmas paper) and hid it.
He didn’t even ask for milk before he went to bed. This was very unusual – but I didn’t say anything. I just wanted to see what would happen.
He woke in the night and when reminded about the bottles/Santa, he had water and went back to sleep. At 5am he woke again and was not happy. Until he saw the present Santa left him! He had water and went back to sleep.
He was very excited on Sunday morning. He opened his gift and I read him the accompanying letter.
He’s still unwell – so I don’t know what will happen once he’s feeling better, but I’m so proud of him. I can’t believe he’s just… Done it.
I really should have higher expectations.