So it’s all over…
I’ve been planning since about March – and this Saturday it came and went.
Oh sorry – I’m talking about V’s Mickey Mouse birthday party.
I bought Mickey ears for everyone to wear (the children weren’t happy about this and hardly any of them wore them!). I took a pair out for V about two or three weeks ago and started getting him used to wearing them.
He wore them at the beginning of the party and for family photos (which was a relief). But then he’d had enough and took them off. He refused to put them back on AND he had a mini-tantrum each time I gave a pair to a friend of his! I told him that his friends were bringing him birthday presents, so he had to give them ears.
He was kind of ok about that.
V had one request for this party. He wanted a horse. Yes. A horse. We went to a party in March and the birthday girl had two horses to take the children for rides. V didn’t forget about it and he kept asking for one. And yes. We organised one for him.
He was SO happy! I can’t even begin to describe the look on his face when he saw it coming through our gate!
The thing is, he didn’t want any of his friends to sit on the horse. As far as he was concerned, it was his horse. In his garden. I suppose that’s logical? So he sat with almost ALL of them while they went on rides. After about twenty minutes he’d had enough – but he refused to get down. He lasted another twenty-five minutes or so and then went on to the next thing. It may have been the bouncy castle or playing games with the entertainer – I was inside on panic mode, so I have no idea!
It was finally time to cut the cake. He was thrilled with his Mickey cake. And he was drooling while looking at all the cupcakes! Again, I can’t describe the expression on his face while everyone sang Happy Birthday to him and he blew out the candles. Once he cut the cake, all the children started reaching for the cupcakes. And V started crying. He told me to tell them to put all the cupcakes back because they were all for him. I don’t think he realised that he couldn’t eat 48 cupcakes all by himself!
I told him that if he didn’t share his cupcakes, his friends would take all their presents back home with them. This worked well. He calmed down and I got him to come and help me give out the return gifts.
However, just before that – when I told him about sharing the cupcakes, I overheard one of the mums telling someone else that I was really mean and that I didn’t handle the situation properly.
I felt a bit crap about it for awhile. And I’ve thought about it a lot. How else could I have handled the situation? And I came up with: I know my child. I know what works with him and I do the best I can.
As my friend Rosssa says: “Your kid, your rules.”
We gave out the return gifts and stopped children from taking helium balloons. Maybe selfish? But I paid a lot for them and for the helium. And V and I both love them. So I won’t apologise for not allowing them to take any home!
The photographer we hired said she’d get our pictures to us in two weeks – so I am eagerly awaiting them.
Meanwhile, my own pictures will just have to do!
14 thoughts on “Hey Mickey!”
Hmmm, that isn’t very nice is it, to be insulted in your own house. Why do people feel the need to comment on other people’s parenting skills. Never mind, you organised a great party for your son and he was delighted and that’s all that mattered.
You’re so right. I was a bit upset at first, but have gotten over it!
Your child, your rules. End of story.
You organized an amazing birthday party and left a little boy VERY happy!
Great job Lagosmum ❤
Love you, Rossa xx
You’re party efforts look fab! The Mickey cakes and cupcakes are great.
I personally think you handled the cupcake incident very appropriately.
Thank you so much! I wish I could take credit for the cake and cupcakes, but I ordered them 🙂
Re the cupcake incident – I just can’t think of another way which would have worked!
I think you organised a great party, V must have had a lot of fun. I also think you handled the ‘cupcake’ situation well.
Thank you so much! He did have a good time, yes. Am so glad it’s over 🙂
Re cupcake situation… Oh well. I did what I felt was best!
oh that’s not nice of that mom to comment. I think you have thrown a fab party with all the little mickey details. Thanks for all the tips too, I was starting to wonder if leaving the ears out for R’s birthday was the right thing or not. V is a lucky boy to have everything he wanted and for a lovely mom and dad who made it all happen. Happy bday again V.xx
Thanks, love. So glad it’s all over! Re the ears… I love the idea of them. To be honest, I could have done without them. If I know of anyone coming I can send them to you?
I’d like to know how that mom would have handled the situation. I probabaly would have handled it the same way you did. Your kid, your rules. The end!
I was surprised at the judgement she made. But oh well… I’ve forgotten about it now! I did what I thought what was best for me/my child!
Hello, I’ve been trying to find where to get cake pops in Lagos, but each time I go on a google hunt I keep seeing your post. If you could please share with me where you got your cake pops from that would be lovely! I can’t seem to find any bakery that sells. Thanks!
Hi Ann – please send me your email address and I can give you the number of someone who does them.