One of the things I said I’d never do when I became a parent, was give my child(ren) a pacifier.
V will be three in four months and he still uses them. I say ‘them’ because he has several and he takes great pleasure in choosing which one he wants to use.
I’m not worried about him growing out of it (He will grow out of it, won’t he?) – I just find it irritating that the damn thing is always in his mouth.
It started out as a soother. It became a necessity for nap/bed time. Now whenever he’s cranky or sulky, he wants his chupa (pacifier). He’s cranky and/or sulky A LOT. He wants his chupa ALL the time. I’ve managed to restrict some of his times. For example, he’s not allowed to take one to nursery any more. He can use one in the car, but he’s not allowed to take it with him when we leave the car (wherever we’re going), etc.
I’ve asked people for their advice, I’ve read others’ posts about their kids and giving up their pacifiers and tried to take it all into consideration. In fact, it was after reading this post by motherventing that I decided to broach the subject with him.
Me: Vinay, you know by Christmas time you’ll be a very big boy…
I chose Christmas as it gives him a long time to prepare himself. Don’t think it matters though, he still says ‘yesterday’ for three weeks ago.
Me: At Christmas time, you should give all your chupas away to the little babies that don’t have any chupas. And then Santa will bring you a very big present.
V: Yes, I want Santa to bring me a big big present.
Me: And he will. But first you have to give your chupas to the small babies.
Silence for thirty seconds.
V: No. I don’t want any presents from Santa.
Great. Now what?
Should I keep talking about it? Or should I just leave it?