I’ve been rather anxious, as you know, about V settling into nursery. It’s only his second week – and I *do* know that some kids take longer than others to adjust to such a huge change. I thought I’d help him along…
On Monday morning he was a bit teary and clingy in the car. We were five minutes late, so all the other children were already inside. The nursery helper came and took him, and he went without any fuss. When I picked him up, I had a packet of Buttons. He’s never tried them before. He’s never had chocolate before (chocolate cake doesn’t count!). I tried to give him one on the way home. He resisted at first, but then decided he wanted to try it.
His face was priceless. He immediately said, ‘More!’ Dammit. I should have known better.
I told him I’d give him another one after he had his lunch (we were back home by now). He started throwing himself around the room until he got another one (yes, I gave in).
On Tuesday morning, he was a bit fussy again. I told him I was going to drop him off and go and buy dudu (milk) and yogurt (which is what I tell him everyday). Then I told him, ‘And I’ll bring you a chocolate when I pick you up!’ No jokes, he was ready to leave in five minutes!
I took the packet with me, as I promised and gave him a Button in the car. And the ‘More!’ started. We’d already agreed I was only going to give him one, so what was this nonsense all about? Repeat tantrum like the previous day.
Clearly the boy didn’t understand bribery. Clearly I was dumb enough to think he did.
Yesterday I had a brainwave (maybe common sense to others?). I put three Buttons in a clear sandwich bag and handed the bag over to him on our way home. He ate them all. And said, ‘More!’ I made him look at the bag and see they were all gone. ‘Mama buy more!’ was the response. I told him I would buy more tomorrow after I dropped him off.
And that was it. Problem solved. No more crying or screaming for more!
If only I’d thought about this on Monday.
Now I have to figure out how to stop the Button thing!