Curiousity Killed The Cat, And All That…

My husband travels for work quite a lot.  Rome, Barcelona, Lisbon, Johannesburg, Mumbai, Delhi, Paris…  You get the picture.

Before Vinay was born, I could never go with him as all the trips were during term time and I couldn’t miss school.  I was never keen on going on his India trips but I did, however, go to Malta with him one year as it was half-term.

Anyway, I know that he’s busy during the day – with meetings and seminars, etc.  And I also know that the nights can be quite heavy.  Gala dinners, pubs, bars, clubs, etc.  So now I know not to ask him to buy anything for me unless 1. I know he has a free day and is going into town and 2. We need something in an emergency, which I can’t find here (mostly things for Vinay).  Although, depending on where he is, he usually buys a couple of bottles of wine, ham and cheese 🙂 and always gets something for Vinay.  Clothes, Lego.  Something.

Last week he was in Dublin.  And because of flight timings, he got there a day early and had half a day free on the way back.  I asked him to buy my mascara (Mac).  Which he did, thank God!

He came back on Saturday morning with a Mickey Mouse, two cars from Cars and a remote control Lightening McQueen (wonder who that’s really for?) for Vinay.

I spotted a Miu Miu carrier bag.  I kept hinting at him to unpack his bag.  But he only took out his laundry to start with.  

This morning he unpacked properly (yesterday was a holiday so he was home from work, but still didn’t unpack).

And left the Miu Miu carrier bag on the landing floor but hasn’t handed it over yet!


I took a peek inside after he left for work this afternoon, but his scarf is covering the contents.


He’s just left it there.  In the middle of the landing.  And every time I go past it, it looks at me.  Taunting and teasing me.

WHY hasn’t he given it to me yet?  Is he keeping it for Valentine’s Day?  Or my birthday?  If so, couldn’t he put it AWAY somewhere?  Maybe it’s for his mum?!

So he’s at work…  Shall I open it and have a look and then feign surprise?  Or should I wait?

Hurt My Child And Deal With Me!

There are (identical) twin boys in playgroup – about four or five years old.  They are a *real* handful and it must be very difficult for their mum to manage them, which is why I was reluctant to write this post.  I didn’t want to judge.  You know – putting yourself in someone else’s shoes, not knowing their circumstances, etc.

BUT…  I have to.

Those two boys are a complete and utter nightmare!

They can regularly be seen on the ride-ons bashing into eachother, picking up the ride-ons and throwing them at each other, throwing toys, games and books *everywhere*, being rough and generally causing havoc wherever they are.

A couple of months ago, one of them was playing with the ironing board and iron; and V went up to him to look at what he was doing.  He got pushed over.  I didn’t say anything to anyone.  Vinay wasn’t hurt.

Today one of V’s friends was sitting in a Little Tikes ride-on (and V was in another nearby).  V’s friend wasn’t moving – just sitting there, and out of nowhere BAM! one of the twins had smashed into the front of his car.  Poor child didn’t cry, but was a bit shocked.  I ran over and said, ‘Please be careful!’  The twin’s mum appeared and had words with him (in a different language, I didn’t understand).  He was, meanwhile, eyeing up V in his car.  He was ready to take-off in Vinay’s direction as soon as his mum turned around.  He caught me glaring (I’ve been told I’m very good at giving the evil eye) at him and went off and did something else. 

A little while later, V was walking around (deciding what to do) and (again) out of nowhere one of the little buggers on a ride-on motorcycle was speeding towards him.  He saw me running towards Vinay and stopped *JUST* before he made contact.  His mum was watching.  She said nothing.

People have had words with the mum about the twins’ behaviour.  And they’ve complained to the committee.  It’s all been very ‘hush hush’.  But nothing has been done…  And the mum (as far as I have seen) does not discipline them.

I am not blaming the mum for her children’s behaviour.  It can’t be easy to watch them both at the same time.  Well all know that it’s difficult to watch just one child at all times.  But I just feel that she needs to be a little more…  Pro-active.  Especially when there are much younger children, who can’t necessarily defend themselves, around.

Children have been subjected to being bitten, hit, pushed and generally terrorised by one or both of these boys (I don’t know which one’s which).

And I don’t know about other parents, but I tend to keep Vinay out of their way (which isn’t always possible, of course).

Today was a close-call for Vinay – he could have been quite badly hurt.

It was also a VERY close-call for those little sh*ts, because if V had been hurt – I promise I would not just have a quiet word with the mum or the committee. 

This is not your usual not sharing, toy-snatching behaviour.  

Someone please tell me I’m not over-reacting?