I am a stay-at-home-mum.
While I was pregnant, Hub and I decided that I would stay home for awhile and see how I felt about going back to work. Right now, I don’t want to. I don’t miss school. I don’t miss the paperwork, the politics or (some of) the people. And I certainly do not miss the very early (5.30am) mornings. I am happy staying at home and being with my son.
I’m not saying I’ll never work again. I’m just saying that for the moment, I don’t want to.
Believe me, I know how lucky I am. I know how fortunate we are to have a choice in the matter. There are so many mums that would leap at the chance to be a SAHM. I thank my lucky stars every day.
But should I be made feel guilty about this?
I was with a friend a few months ago. V had just learnt how to roll over onto his front. My friend’s child is a similar age to V. She seemed quite impressed and said her baby wasn’t rolling over yet. I asked her if she’d noticed the baby doing half a roll (does that make sense?), because that was how V started. She replied with, ‘I haven’t noticed because I work.’
This same friend came to V’s party last month. As she was leaving, we were trying to sort out a play-date. She said she was a little busy for the next couple of weeks (as was I because my sister was in town). I told her that wasn’t a problem at all, and that she should contact me when things were less busy. She replied, ‘I’ll do that, but I’m not sure when it will be because, you know, I work.’
She was quite condescending both times.
I *know* she doesn’t want to work. I *know* she would rather stay at home and be with her child. And I know that she is not (yet) in a position to do so, which is why I have kept quiet and not said anything.
I’m not sure if she’s trying to make me feel guilty, or if it’s my over-active imagination at work.
Either way, I don’t like feeling like this!