V has always been a little quiet and reserved (but never at home). He’s always been a bit nervous around new people, and never speaks to anyone he’s not comfortable with. He’s very particular about a lot of things and I put that down to being a Virgo.
I’ve always called him ‘shy’. And sometimes, ‘peculiar’.
My mil gets a little exasperated with him and his habits – she likes to tell me about what she thinks he should be like *eye roll*. And although I sometimes think the same about certain things (especially when I see some other kids) – I will never admit it to her. I will defend him until my last breath! I always say to her, ‘He is who he is and no one can change that.’ She doesn’t like that.
V and his personality take up a lot of my thinking time (and there is a lot of it), and I can’t help but wonder why he is the way he is. Oh – my mil also thinks it could be because LagosDad and I are a bit ‘shy’ and ‘quiet’ and because we like to stay home a lot (I don’t even know where to start with this one – so it’s better I just bite my tongue!).
I came across an article on Facebook a few days ago, and it really helped me put my thoughts into perspective. I think it’s even helped me to understand him a little more. It’s called, Don’t Call Introverted Children ‘Shy’ by Susan Cain.
Please read it if you get a chance. If your child/ren aren’t introverts, it will help you to better understand children that are.